Coping with change

As my last post was on friends I thought it would be a good idea to talk about change. Coming to uni can be very hard and if, like I said before, you still haven’t quite got the hang of things yet it can be hard.

Dealing with anxiety, homesickness, stress… are all natural when encountering new stages, and/or situations in your life. So again, here a few tips that may help:

  1. Accept that change will affect you, your emotions might be unstable and it might take a while to settle down. The sooner you’ve accepted this the easier it is to get back on your feet.
  2. Good and bad changes affect us in a way that we may grieve in both situations as we are losing an old way of being or a set of circumstances.
  3. Don’t resist the change that you’re facing, go with the flow, this may help you adapt more easily.
  4. Try and keep a routine, at uni this sentence is heard and said nearly 4 times a day and it is very difficult as each day of every week is different. Also being independent means you have to make time for washing, cooking, eating, cleaning… but, it’s still a good idea to try and have a routine and stick to it as much as possible. This will allow you to have a sense of daily purpose and of knowing what you’re doing when.
  5. One of the key factors is to share, don’t suffer alone or in silence. There is always someone there for you. But, don’t make it all about how upset or anxious you are try having a laugh or a good time. That will also help with the making friends part.
  6. Break it down, tackle the bigger changes in small steps. Bit by bit and eventually you’ll get there.
  7. Every cloud has a silver lining, some changes can leave you feeling desperate, lost, worried… but each change brings new opportunities. Try and think about the future and stay focused on the positives rather than the negatives.

It won’t last forever, this last one is mostly for those who suffer a bit more. Those feeling of anxiety won’t last forever and you will adapt, probably without even realising it.

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Reminders.

Isn’t it weird how the smallest things can have the biggest impacts? The other day I was cooking what’s called Kraft Dinner (I’m pretty sure they don’t have that here in the UK), which is just cheese and small macaroni noodles in my small kitchen.

When I finally sat down to eat and took in the aroma of my KD a flush of memories hit me from back in the day when we begged my mom for some Kraft Dinner – especially when she cut up hot dogs and threw them in. Sauce it up with some Ketchup – Delicious.

Yet still I can remember all the times when we sat in my kitchen eating the stuff, from the time it was just me & Mum, to moving into our big house with my step dad, to now when I could show my English roommates who had never had it before.

The flood of memories came back and made me think of home and how far away I truly am these days. It may be time for exams but the holidays are just around the corner and I know that there will be some people sticking around here with no one to celebrate – thinking about home the way I do now.

We might be busy now but those memories are soon going to hit us all when we finally leave the exam hall and can take a deep breathe of relief in.

I hope you all have those small reminders because in the end those are the ones that are the most important, the little connections that we all live for. It’s going to be a stressful few weeks but I hope everyone finds time for those memories that we’re here for, and for a second, take a breathe of relief.

Love as always,

Ty Javos