Coping with change

As my last post was on friends I thought it would be a good idea to talk about change. Coming to uni can be very hard and if, like I said before, you still haven’t quite got the hang of things yet it can be hard.

Dealing with anxiety, homesickness, stress… are all natural when encountering new stages, and/or situations in your life. So again, here a few tips that may help:

  1. Accept that change will affect you, your emotions might be unstable and it might take a while to settle down. The sooner you’ve accepted this the easier it is to get back on your feet.
  2. Good and bad changes affect us in a way that we may grieve in both situations as we are losing an old way of being or a set of circumstances.
  3. Don’t resist the change that you’re facing, go with the flow, this may help you adapt more easily.
  4. Try and keep a routine, at uni this sentence is heard and said nearly 4 times a day and it is very difficult as each day of every week is different. Also being independent means you have to make time for washing, cooking, eating, cleaning… but, it’s still a good idea to try and have a routine and stick to it as much as possible. This will allow you to have a sense of daily purpose and of knowing what you’re doing when.
  5. One of the key factors is to share, don’t suffer alone or in silence. There is always someone there for you. But, don’t make it all about how upset or anxious you are try having a laugh or a good time. That will also help with the making friends part.
  6. Break it down, tackle the bigger changes in small steps. Bit by bit and eventually you’ll get there.
  7. Every cloud has a silver lining, some changes can leave you feeling desperate, lost, worried… but each change brings new opportunities. Try and think about the future and stay focused on the positives rather than the negatives.

It won’t last forever, this last one is mostly for those who suffer a bit more. Those feeling of anxiety won’t last forever and you will adapt, probably without even realising it.

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Cooking as a skill, a quality and a friendship symbol!

When you are studying in a foreign country, you will miss traditional or homemade meals as much as you miss your family and friends. Even though many readymade meals, restaurants and takeaway chains offer your food or similar, you will definitely miss your homemade food very much. However, the good thing is that you can prepare for this very easily.

Many of us know how to cook basically, but it can be very useful if you learn how to make a few traditional dishes or meals before coming to study in the UK. You can simply ask or watch what your family is cooking or learn from many online cooking channels. I can’t mention the benefits of this simple and easy preparation. Being able to cook some of my traditional meals helped me to get through my homesickness a lot and it can be very cheap compared to eating out all the time.

The most important and fun part of cooking is that you can exchange your cooked meals with other international friends who are always happy to taste your home food. I have experienced many dinner celebrations with my international friends and we always cooked our own food together and offered to taste them. I would say these dinners helped our friendship to become stronger and better. This was one of the best parts of my study experience in the UK since I got to learn many different and delicious kinds of food from different countries. You won’t regret it if you give some time to learn some basic cooking before you come since it will be so fun and beneficial for you. Just three or four kinds of meals will be of great help for you.